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Dear RND: I have a co-worker who manages a separate department from me. In meetings she is respectful and even projects a great "can do" attitude as a team player. However, if ever we don't agree and especially if our Vice President makes a decision siding with my opinion, like clockwork she will take a small issue in our department and generate a very dramatic and negative email lashing out at me and my staff. These are never productive and at times undermines my authority since I have little control. She is not my subordinate, so I can't write her up for her behavior. To make matters worse, everyone, including our V.P. has witnessed her "tantrums". Apparently she generates enough money for the company that they aren't enough of an issue so they continue to ignore complaints about her. When I confront her directly, she is very sweet and respectful and plays dumb. She is highly intelligent and has valuable ideas but the other side of her is immature and manipulative. I realize I can't change her. How do I motivate my employees to be professional and respectful when clearly there's a double standard in our company's culture?

R: Unfortunately, that is the reality of life. There are many double standards in our society. Many people get away with things regardless of all the rules and laws in place. If you see someone steal something, run and get away, does that make you want to steal? You are either a person who steals, or you're not. That shouldn't influence your staff. Just motivate your staff like you would normally, despite her issues. Honestly, I've never worked at a company that didn't have "difficult" personalities in it. It's human nature. So start with honesty and awareness. Don't pretend you don't disapprove of her behavior but she shouldn't be the focus of your department. Ask your staff what kind of work environment they want. Ask them how they want to treat each other. Ask them what would motivate them. It's about the kind of people they want to be and the culture they want to create. I prefer peace and joy in my life, so I try and structure my life so that I live that way. It doesn't always happen, but that's my goal. If I react every time someone offends me, I'm going to walk around being a very bitter and angry person. That's not going to keep me joyful and peaceful, is it?

Speaker and writer Wayne Dyer says "You can spend a great deal of time and energy finding opportunities to be offended. Become a person who refuses to be offended by any one, any thing, or any set of circumstances. If something takes place and you disapprove, by all means state what you feel from your heart; and IF possible, work to eliminate it and then let it go. If you have enough faith in your own beliefs, you'll find that it's impossible to be offended by the beliefs and conduct of others."

Feel badly for her that she has no control over her emotions. And pick your battles. At times you can respond with a stern non-dramatic response about what you feel is unprofessional behavior. At other times, you can choose to just let it go and ignore it. Either way, make your department a model for the company and who knows what can happen.

D: Here's the deal - It sounds like "management" will never do anything to make the working environment better for the masses, because the income your co-worker generates is more important than a team that can successfully work together. Shame on your leaders for not realizing that they could be increasing revenues even more, if they had corporate culture that was built on trust in addition to open and respected lines of communication. So, in this environment, how do you motivate your staff to continue to be professional (that is, if you all really want to stay at this company), first, lead by example! This may be your biggest challenge, however, be transparent with them about what is going on, but still be genuinely optimistic. Also, ask them for their opinions. It makes them feel like they are part of the solution (because they are) and that their voices actually do matter. They may have suggestions or view points that you have not thought of. Make things fun in your department and create some good bonding opportunities. Have a contest, or organize a pot luck. Or pick a night where you could all volunteer somewhere together. There are many different approaches, but whatever you choose, you are the leader, and you must be genuine in your efforts. Good luck! Add a comment
Don Becker called me that morning. He said a bunch of us were going to that new ball field on Illinois 58 and play baseball. I was invited.

The new ball field is the one at the northeast corner of Summit (Ill. 58) and Hiawatha. There were Little League fields on each side of the road and they just opened this larger field with regulation bases and mound and a longer fence. I knew all the guys who would be there; Ron Schimmel, Art Benner, Roger Eckholm and the same guys I hung around with the summer before.

We were out of high school now, a year of college on our resume. Some spent their first year at ECC, a few went to Arizona or SIU. Some were home by Thanksgiving. For good.

But it was late July and the air was warm, the day bright and sunny and there was baseball to be played and the past to recreate, if only for an afternoon.

One of the guys brought a radio because he wanted to hear the big news that was supposed to happen that day.

Along about the fourth inning I was in the on deck circle and I heard the broadcaster say, "The Eagle has landed." We stopped the game for a few minutes and everyone gathered around the bench and we heard a crackling, static-filled voice say, "That's one small step for man, one giant leap for mankind."

July 20, 1969. Me and a handful of friends playing baseball and listening to history.

We looked at each other. No one cheered or jumped up and down. The high-five hadn't been invented yet. Neither had overwrought celebration or false patriotism.

The space program had fascinated us for years, first enjoyed at 10 years old when we listened with sweaty palms and indescribable tension as Alan Shepherd shot up into space and came back down in less time than it takes to get an auto insurance quote now.

John Glenn went around the Earth three times and various other expeditions performed a variety of feats that had come to seem routine.

And now, the culmination of John F. Kennedy's promise, we had put a man on the moon before the end of the 60s.

It was pretty remarkable when you look back on the technology and the science of the 1960s. There's more computing power in an iPhone than they used to launch men into space.

But there was still a majesty, a sense of achievement and pride on that hot July afternoon. We still had a swagger then, a sense that nothing was impossible if we really wanted to do it. We took risks and chances and failed sometimes but kept trying. We were working toward something and there was a unity of purpose.

I always thought Kennedy was a great president not because of what he accomplished but because he made us believe in the promise and hope of America. He made us proud to be Americans and called on us to make our country even better. I never felt he was just shining us on for the camera or offering false hope and change. He offered action and the absence of fear. And most of all, the absence of shame that we were a great country and wanted to be greater. We were a nation, not a random collection of self-interests.

When Neil Armstrong eased out of the capsule door and plopped onto the moon, it seemed like the beginning of another new era of achievement, just another notch in the belt of a country for which tomorrows stretched to infinity.

His death last week brought into sharp focus the contrast between an America which believed in itself and one which has gone off the rails. Add a comment
Today I'm going to discuss algebraic equations and their ultimate uselessness in the face of modern technology.

Although there are some who have become absolutely tingly with anticipation at the thought of the subject matter put forth in the opening sentence, my guess is, if anyone is still reading, it's because they're giving me one more chance before checking out kitty videos at Youtube. And that, my friends is an example of free will or an extremely generous nature for which I am grateful.

On the list of everyone's favorite wills, free is usually either first or second, depending on one's feeling about Shakespeare, and with good reason. Free will is a gift and a right and sometimes a way to really mess up your life. Still, those of us that can exercise free will, value its nature and would never, willingly hand it over, save for the universal practice which occurs everyday when every man, woman and child (and dog) slips between the sheets and relinquishes every ounce of choice in exchange for the ability to function in our daily lives. That period of time is best known as sleep or night-night, depending on one's age and/or level of maturity.

During this time, we allow ourselves to be held captive and forced to watch the worst movies ever made, including The Batman with George Clooney who, as a rule, improves every project he participates in, if only by his jaunty handsomeness.

Clooney's corner on charisma not withstanding, every evening, we, the people of this planet willingly purchase a ticket from the sandman, (or the bogeyman), in order to be subjected to hours upon hours of the most bizarre behaviors ever presented as entertainment or cautionary tales, unless we're fans of the Kardashians.

Not one of us would shell out the money it takes to make a phone call fifty years ago to watch a movie or play with the plot twists in a basic night's sleep. Unless you're Steven Spielberg who probably has the coolest dreams ever.

But my dreams, and most likely yours are lacking even the tiniest amount of cohesive story lines and realistic plot development. We are pummeled with badly written theater, directed and produced by our innermost thoughts and the worst part is we willingly go back for more every single night, most times with a sigh of contentment.

Do we balk at the idea of returning to this theater of sorts? No! We're fascinated by nightly sagas to the point where we feel the need to describe them in detail to unsuspecting friends and co-workers who, unless they are prominently featured, have little or no interest in our nocturnal meanderings

Which brings me to my latest nocturnal meanderings: I dreamt I was clad in an ill fitting robe and little else, which begs the question, what is it with dream and their universal fascination with inappropriate attire? I wandering down a street, which seemed to be in my mother-in-law's neighborhood, attempting to decipher which direction I should turn in order to reach her house. As I attempted to solve this puzzle, I came across what seemed to be an awesome sale on garden art housed in a pre-self-service era gas station. I drew nearer and peered into a window to ascertain if the store was still open. (Now, here comes the fascinating part.) Rather than a going-out-of-statues-business, there was an inviting buffet filled southern-style delicacies. I thought to myself, "I love southern food. I'll need to remember this is here." The end.

Now, what in the wide world of sports was so important about that scenario that justified my brain paralyzing me to make me an unwillingly audience member to it's little self-produced vanity project?

I love southern cooking and it's hard to find in The North? I am aware. Time is passing and the friendly gas stations of yesteryear are fading away? No Kidding. There's a big sale on garden art somewhere in the world and I'm missing it? Really? Where? I love sales! If there is indeed such a sale my mind has chosen to taunt me with less than adequate details.

Which leaves the "people shouldn't walk around the city in flimsy sleepwear" message which has been duly noted since the incident of March 30, 1976, on which I prefer not to elaborate. So, even the one piece of pertinent information is redundant and therefore of no use to me, thereby leaving absolutely no new information which justifies kidnapping me in the middle of the night, holding my metaphorical eyes open ala A Clockwork Orange and forcing this ill conceived ad for southern food on me.

I suppose that's why there are people whose livelihood is based on sorting out this nonsense. Dream Interpreters and psychiatrists and a few best friends would, most likely find some meaning along the lines of "You long for the days when you knew your gas station owners by name, but now they are as lost to you as a piece of exquisite garden art which is also lost to you, much like the recipe for dreamy fried chicken is lost to the Chicago area. Oh, and don't go outside for a long walk in a robe which is too small for you."

Life can be a dream? Let's hope not.

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I hope all you parents out there survived the going-back-to-school-after-summer-vacation rituals. New backpacks purchased along with the never-ending school supply list...New uniforms or regulation-length shorts ready for the first hot days of school...and lunch boxes, sharpened pencils and school picture money (already!) paid! And of course, lest not forget the first-day-of-the-new-school-year at home picture. I was one of those proud Moms, along with the majority of my Facebook friends, who posted kid pics to mark the occasion with a photo journal entry of the start to the 2012-2013 school year.

So, with this behind us, we have other end of summer/beginning of autumn rituals that we can "fall" in to! Beginning this weekend with the Community Carnival, which I wrote of last week. Don't forget, it's all happening at Kimball and North Grove in Elgin (the same location as the Downtown Neighborhood Association's (DNA) weekly Harvest Market – where you can get Elgin's own "Over the Top Sweets" sweet treats!) You won't want to miss out on the Zipper, Zero Gravity or the Dizzy Dragon! The carnival runs Friday, 5pm – 10pm, Saturday and Sunday, 1pm – 5pm, and the weather is looking good!

And speaking of the DNA's Harvest Market, to wind down the summer and carry us through early fall, the market runs every Thursday through October 4th. They continue to offer, from our local area growers and small businesses, fresh bread, meats, spices, pet treats and more. Oh, and did I mention the most delectable sweet treats from "Over the Top Sweets"? (Can you tell at the time of me writing this, I have a craving for chocolate! – Oh wait, when don't I have a craving for chocolate!) Make it a point to stop by to take in all that our local farmers and businesses have to offer.

And what more says end of summer (besides my loud crying, whining and already-fading tan!) than Labor Day Weekend. Just as Memorial Day Weekend is our unofficial start to summer, Memorial Day always symbolizes the winding down to summer. This national holiday where we pay our respects to the men and women who have died while serving the citizens of our United States, has always been a holiday for remembrance, but at the same time - celebration. And in Elgin, we will be celebrating... at iFest (a.k.a. International Fest). iFest will kick-off the festivities at 11am with a parade that proceeds north on Chicago Street to Spring Street, then it will meander east on Spring to Grove, where it will make its grand entrance at iFest, Festival Park (on Grove between Prairie and Lake in Elgin). The festival will feature an international blend of entertainment from our home country - the good ol' U.S. of A.- in addition to entertainment from far away lands such as Ireland, Korea, Egypt, and many others! There will be a world market, kid's activities, foods from around the world, a beer tent, and a community spirit that highlights all these diverse foods, entertainment and people of the City of Elgin! For more information visit elginifest.com or call 224-0725-FEST.

Then follow me towards September 8, 2012 and we will walk right into the 2012 Annual Historic Elgin House Tour, from 9am – 5pm. The unique focus to this year's tour is that it is highlighting an area of Elgin that has not been covered in previous years – Elgin's near southwest side. This neighborhood features those Sears, Roebuck & Co. mail order houses that were built from kits. Between 1908 and 1940, Sears actually shipped, by rail, building plans, materials and kit houses to all corners of the nation. In addition, this year's tour features a large Queen Anne fashioned home which was designed by W.W. Abell. Abell also designed the "Teeple Barn", the massive and well-known round barn that used to stand on Randall Road by Interstate 90, until is was knocked down by a wind storm in 2007. The Annual Historic House Tour will provide a docent at each site to tell you more about each building, and by the end of the tour, you, too, will understand why Elgin was named "Best Place to Buy an Old House" in 2009 by This Old House magazine. For more information on tickets, visit Gifford-park-assoc.org.

This is just a sampling of what is happening in the City of Elgin in the next few weeks – always something fun and interesting to do! I hope to see you at some, if not all of these events happening in the "City in the Suburbs"! Add a comment

More than 65 years ago, several Elgin men were among U.S. Marines fighting a 36-day battle on a rocky island in the Pacific.
Iwo Jima, five miles long and two-and-a-half miles wide, was about 750 miles south of Tokyo. Its caves, bunkers and pillboxes concealed 21,000 Japanese troops protecting the listening posts which gave advance notice of American raids over Japan.
Its airfields permitted fighters to pick off crippled United States bombers, which had no fighter escort because of the great distance from American bases in the Marianas.
On Feb. 19, 1945, after a three-day pre-invasion naval bombardment, Marine divisions began landing on Iwo Jima's volcanic ash beaches. They stormed out of their landing craft to meet a fierce resistance from the dug-in Japanese. In the first 18 hours there were more than 2,000 casualties. Offshore, kamikaze planes crashed into U.S. ships. Land mines were everywhere.
Day after day the Marines advanced from one redoubt to another, only seeing the enemy when they emerged in banzai counterattacks. Some strong points had concrete walls 4 to 8 feet thick. As the battle continued, the defenders began to suffer from hunger and thirst. It wasn't until March 9 that the last main defense line was broken.
Cpl. Harrison Giertz, Elgin High '42, landed with his battery of 105mm howitzers on the first day. Under constant shelling, their guns were emplaced and returning fire within a half-hour after their "ducks" hit the sands.
Lt. Roy G. Miller, EHS '33, was in command of a squadron of 12 two-seater observation planes directing artillery fire.
Cpl. Arthur L. Krambeer, EHS '40, wrote home: "We just about own this sand pile now, but it took a lot of slapping around to convince the Japs we were entitled to it. The shrapnel certainly flew around thick and fast."
Of the 21,000 Japanese defenders, only 1,083 survived. The grueling battle cost the U.S. armed forces more than 25,000 casualties. Not since April 6 and 7 at Shiloh, during the Civil War, were so many from Elgin killed in action in one battle.
Among the total of 6,821 who fell were:
• Cpl. Fred Schroeder, an employee of the Elgin Storage and Transfer Co. before he entered the service.
• Pvt. William G. Fees, EHS '37.
•Pfc. Kenneth Bau, EHS '43, who had been employed by Taylor Engineering before enlisting.
• Cpl. Robert L. Chapman, also employed by Taylor.
• Pfc. Herbert G. Funk, EHS '40.
• Pfc. LaVerne (Hank) Groneman, who had been working at Woodruff & Edwards. An Indian dancer in the Song of Hiawatha pageant, he had played the part of Gitchie Manitou. Groneman was posthumously awarded a Bronze Star medal.
According to the citation, when his squad was subjected to a withering crossfire from hidden Japanese gun positions, inflicting many casualties, he "heroically exposed himself to open fire on the hostile emplacements, thereby drawing the enemy fire to himself and facilitating the evacuation of the wounded." Add a comment
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