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So, December's here and we're all done shopping, now what should we do? I'm kidding of course. If you're completely done shopping, nobody likes you. Kidding again, of course. People only dislike you if you're done shopping and brag about it.

I have to admit, I'm almost done, which should impress you because I'm a woman, which says a couple of things about me, gift-wise. One, I have more shopping to do than your average male persuasion and two, I've done none of my shopping at the grocery store and, will most likely not do any gift shopping there, even on the traditional HCCiT (Holy Crap, Christmas is Tomorrow?) Day, which is mostly observed by those with a Y chromosome.

I understand I'm being unfair to you dudes who started shopping in September, purchasing thoughtful and unique gifts for everyone on your shopping list, including your mom, without consulting with the female's in your life, but that's only because none of you guys have done that.

The truth is, only 23% of men have bought even half of their Christmas purchases by December 23 and only 42% will have completed their gift shopping by December 24, which is why they made Walgreen's. (Yes, I made up those statistics based on my experience, although I will deny this if called upon to testify in court on the matter. I don't fear perjury charges because I'm fairly certain there is no penalty for making up statistical research or political pollsters would need their own prison.)

At this time, I want to mention that my husband has offered up some pretty great Christmas gifts and I, in no way am insinuating or coming right out and saying that he has ever visited Jewel on the night before the holiday. He saves those trips for my birthday and our anniversary.

Last Christmas was the year of the Coldplay tickets which has given him at least another five years of bragging rights. However, for those of you guys who have yet to shop for the women in your life, I'm going to do you a solid and advise you, thus making it possible for you to attend this year's Christmas Eve celebration without the anxious feeling that comes with not knowing if the drug store is still open.

The first rule about buying the perfect gift for your lady friend is that there are no rules. While one woman would open a box with a hand sander in it and proceed to test it out on you LP collection, another might squeal and offer you thanks that need to be whispered so as not to trouble the children.

It's been my experience, however, that the majority of women do not enjoy gifts that imply that work needs to be done and that her significant other is politely pointing this out by supplying the tools with which to do so. Here's a quick, but not complete list of items most women will take as a hint and therefore, hate you on Christmas morning.

Irons
Vacuums
washing machines
lingerie

Once again, to illustrate the yin and yang of the gift giving conundrum, I asked for a vacuum one year and received it. I was planning to feign surprise just for fun, but my son, who was four at the time, informed me that he was going keep quiet about the vacuum I would soon be receiving from daddy just as daddy had asked him to do. I was more amused by this than his father.

Another consideration is that most women will retaliate in some insidious way and when you least expect it if you purchase a gift appears to be less for her than, say...you. For instance, if my husband bought me season tickets to an sports related activity, I would be less than pleased, which is to say, I'd make an appointment with a lawyer. My sisters-in-law, on the other hand, would do the happy dance. If you are a married man and don't know which type of response you would get in this situation, there is no accounting or sympathy for you when you end up permanently damaged.

Clothes or jewelry are a good choice, so long as you include a gift receipt and promise not to pout when she uses it. In fact, you should thing of these items more as a gift certificate which is always appreciated.

There are those women who simply make a list and hand it over in a timely fashion thus insuring that she will get something she would have bought herself and thereby saving disappointment and hard feelings on Christmas morning. This takes all the fun out of gift giving, but to each their own.

In my opinion, and I am never wrong, most women want a gift that says; I know who you are, I listen to you, I want you to be happy without consideration of cost or difficulty of obtainability. I want you to offer up your feelings in the form of a wrap-able gift, but only if your feelings do not need to be discussed with a psychiatrist.

Clear enough? Just make it perfect. Don't screw up because this is life or death stuff. No pressure and no Walgreen's. Good luck and godspeed.



It’s beginning to look a lot like Christmas. And . . . smell like it! The aromas wafting from the kitchen offer a foretaste, to wax quasi-liturgical, of the temporal feast to come.


Cookies, breads, meats, pies! No wonder people used to call dining tables “groaning boards”.


Of course, this special holiday fare is not a mere whim of the taste bud. Oh, no; it, all of it, is as loaded with symbolism as Christmas cookies are with sugar.


Let’s begin with that perennial favorite, mince pie. What a delight! And totally appropriate for the season. With every bite, you take in its richness of flavor and history.


It was after the Crusades that meat pies became popular in 13th century England. This was due to in large part to the vast array of spices brought back from the Middle East. Originally, these pies were made from minced bits of venison, pheasant, partridge, rabbit, and peacock, with apples, sugar, molasses, suet, and raisins thrown in for good measure, all spiced up and baked.


The sweet meats are symbols of the gifts the Wise Men brought to the infant Jesus. The pies were baked in the shape of a manger with an image of the Christ Child upon them.


That was all well and good until England’s Oliver Cromwell and the Puritans took over the rule of the land. Never big ones on symbols ( these were the people who painted over the murals in the churches of the time ), they looked at the pie and saw only idolatry. And so they outlawed these spicy treats. This attitude even leapt the Antlantic, coming with the Pilgrims to this country.


Ultimately, the shape of the pie was changed to its current roundness, and the image of the Baby Jesus was replaced with sprigs of holly.


By the way, this was also the pie of Little Jack Horner fame.


Seems that Jack was rally Thomas Horner, servant of Richard Whiting, Abbot of the wealthy cathedral at Glastonbury during the reign of Henry VIII. At that time, Henry was busying himself with dissolving the hold of the Catholic Church on English lands.


Glastonbury, being a Catholic cathedral, was imperiled, and Whiting needed a plan to appease the King. So  he sent Horner with a pie chock-full of deeds to a dozen wealthy estates.


Now Horner, being an enterprising lad, saw the opportunity to have his pie and eat it, too. He did indeed reach into the pie and pull out a plum of an estate for himself.


Things did not fare as well for Whiting, who was drawn and quartered; nor for the cathedral of Glastonbury, which was reduced to rubble.


Meanwhile, back in the kitchen, the cookies are ready. A tray brimming with edible symbols, what with all those cute little reindeer, and snowmen, and horses, and the like. While they are intended for the season, Christmas was always the one they represented.


Cookies of this ilk were originally fashioned as a way to sacrifice animals to the gods and still have Bessie the cow around to milk the next morning. Livestock was not only precious and valuable, but was integral to the survival of a community. What the gods thought of this clever switcheroo is not known for certain.


Have a cup of wassail. It’s good for you. In more ways than you might think. That delightful concoction of wines and spices, abob with roasted apples, began life as a toast or blessing of good health.


Indeed, the Anglo-Saxon from which the name comes translates to “be well”. As such, it is a ritual, quaffed by others to the well-being of the one so toasted. In some traditions, people go from door to door with an empty wassail bowl, which is filled at every stop and drank by the visitors who impart the blessing upon their hosts.


There was quite a ceremony associated with this, the origins of which are shrouded in the shadows of the dim past. During Twelfth Night festivities, a group would make the rounds of local orchards, where selected trees would be toasted and sprinkled with wassail. In the revelry that followed, any evil spirits who might harm the coming year’s harvest were driven away by the noise. Sometimes, the trunk of a tree would be christened by breaking a bottle against it, linking this symbolic act to the christening of ships.


Ah, the spirit of Christmas menus past, present, and future. Like so many things, their origin is uncertain, but their present intent is abundantly clear. Have another cookie. Merry Christmas Season!

 

 


Mike provides the Fox Valley and beyond with religion and beliefs writing, something he has done, well, religiously since 1986. He is co-lead congregational consultant with Insight Facilitators (www.insightfacilitators.com), a parachurch consulting practice working with houses of worship to inspire spiritual health, vitality, and presence across their communities. If you encounter a religion story that needs telling, contact him at This e-mail address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it .


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RND: I have been married 13 years to a woman I had thought I knew better. I recently found out that when she was single, she had an affair with a married man. I cannot get this out of my head!

We have two amazing children, and my wife is a great wife and mother, but I have lost a lot of respect for her. I have been pretty vocal with her about how I feel, but I just keep replaying her infidelity over and over. Before we were married, I know that she dated a 2 or 3 other guys, and I am pretty sure that she had sex with all of them, too! Our current sex life, however, is non-existent. I don't want to be intimate with a woman who is so "used" and has such loose morals. I used to think the world of her, but now, I don't. How can I turn this around? We had a great marriage until her wrong doings had surfaced.

R: I've been saying for a long time, we teach our children math and science, we teach them "social" skills, but no one truly prepares you for marriage. I feel everyone should take an entire course on how to have a healthy relationship. If I were coaching them, I would have the couple write down what they want from a marriage, their vital needs and what they most value. Then I would teach them how to honestly and lovingly express what they want and need. It would probably be eye-opening for many, even after dating for a long time. People change, circumstances change but at least you would start out with an honest foundation and eliminate years of frustration.

What I'm hearing you say is that you value high moral standards. So you need to decide what you value more, high moral standards, or your wife? If it's morality, then get out now and stop punishing your wife. That is not a healthy or moral way to live. If it's your wife, then try and work through this. Explore why you value what you do. The decisions we make either come from a place of love or fear. It can't be both. So I'm gathering there's something you fear here. You ARE in charge of your thoughts and emotions. So ask yourself, "what do I fear?" What would it feel like to let go of her past?" "What would it take to love her fully again like the last 13 years?" Either way, take advise from the saintly Mother Teresa. She said "if you judge others, you have no time to love them."

D: Geesh! You are doing a lot of blaming here. Get a mirror out and look at the reflection. What you see, is deteriorating your good marriage. Your poor wife! You are acting as a victim, and shame on you. All of her relationships happened before she met you, then she met YOU and fell in love with YOU, and she has committed to YOU. Before you met her, you had never had a relationship with another woman? If not, maybe that's your problem. You are being pretty brutal. I think it sounds like you had a great marriage until your ridiculous behavior. My first piece of advice would be to talk to a counselor about this. Work on yourself and hopefully you can repair the damage you have done to what once was a good relationship. Add a comment


So...Black Friday Shopping: Check. Small Business Saturday: Check! Cyber Monday and Tired from Shopping Tuesday: Check, Check! Now what's left? Well it is not more shopping, but something a little more entertaining, like the 14th Annual Downtown Elgin "Window Wonderland", which leads into the City of Elgin's official Tree Lighting ceremony – all taking place on Saturday, December 1 from 12pm-5pm! The holidays have arrived!

Window Wonderland is a Downtown Neighborhood Association (DNA) event that takes place in – well – Downtown Elgin! Businesses and Organizations decorate their store front windows in a pre-determined holiday theme. Past themes have been "Rockin' in a Window Wonderland", "Christmas from the Past, Present and Future, and "Miracle on the Streets". This year, for the 14th Annual Window Wonderland, the theme is "Win this Window!" Now through December 12, 2012, you can vote for your favorite window online or in person at the DNA. This year, votes are $1 and the participating non-profit will receive the total proceeds for the People's Choice Awards. While at the same time, for every vote received, those names will be put into a raffle to win a gift basket full of goodies! This is a unique approach for this year, which supports our area's non-profits and adds a little something nice for all you voters!

But that's not all (I sound like a bad game show host)! Even though strolling along the streets of Downtown Elgin to gaze at all the windows while taking in the sights and sounds of this holiday happening would be enough, there is much more to this Yule-tide event.

For example, kids 12 and under can pick up their Holiday Treasure Hunt Passport Puzzle at participating area businesses, City Hall, Gail Borden Public Library, and the DNA. Then while at Window Wonderland, they will collect the pieces to their special holiday passport puzzle by visiting all 12 Window Wonderland Passport Stops. When the puzzle is complete, bring your under 12 year old boy or girl and the assembled puzzle to Elgin Pulbic House, 219 E. Chicago Street, for a free picture with the Big Guy (and I don't mean the owner Greg, but you never know, if you ask!), the Man in Red, the Weihnachtsmann (is that correct Heike?), Papa Noel, the Ol' Kris Kringle...you know St. Nick...a.k.a. Santa Claus! Also included, is an entry into a drawing for $50 in DNA gift certificate, which can be used at most of the shops and restaurants in Downtown Elgin! And to top it all off, the puzzle is your holiday Window Wonderland memento that your child gets to keep to remind him or her of this heart-warming, holiday extravaganza kind of event!

But wait! There's even more holiday fun in the works! (Is Drew Carey somewhere around here?!) The Centre (centerofelgin.org) has their 10th Anniversary Open House from 7am – 2pm, that includes raffles, give-aways, free group fitness classes, kids activities and, of course...more! At Window Wonderland, the City of Elgin, beginning at 12pm, will host Free ice skating at City Skate at 150 Dexter Court. The Elgin Police Department, 151 Douglas Avenue will have their Holiday Open House from 1-3pm, and down the street at the Civic Center parking lot, Boy Scout Troops #10 and #11 will be serving Trail Doughnuts, cobbler and selling beautiful wreaths. Villa Verone at 13 Douglas Avenue will host Kringle Karaoke (red suit – or a good voice - not required!). Yes, Virgina, there is even more...Photos with Santa – Letters to Santa – Horse drawn carriage rides – chestnut roasting – Some of Santa's real live reindeers – Polar Express Story Telling and Activities – and More! All the delightful details can be found at downtownelgin.com

But wait! Is it possible that there is even more? Why...yes it is! It's Christmastime for Goodness sake - Anything is possible! There is the magical and wondrous City of Elgin tree lighting ceremony that begins at 3:30pm with a Winter Kaleidoscope Concert featuring the Jazz Consortium Big Band. The swinging rhythms will lead up to the welcome by Elgin Mayor David Kaptain at 5pm and a holiday and harmonious performance by the Elgin Children's Choir. This will be followed by a visit from Santa and the illumination of the Official City of Elgin Holiday Tree!

So there you have in a chestnut shell, holiday goers...From Window Wonderland activities to the Lighting of the Official Tree, Saturday, December 1, 2012 will have activities suited to everyone...families, couples, friends and relatives. This is a true holiday event, so Come One All Ye Faithful to this wondrous holiday event! Add a comment


Shoe Factory Road and the street names of Congdon, Ludlow, and Keep are reminders of the days when Elgin produced shoes in large numbers.

After the Civil War, machine production for a national market replaced the shoes custom made by local craftsmen working in small shops. A small boot and shoe factory started up in Elgin in 1873 but was short-lived.

George L. Congdon in 1881 moved his Chicago operations to Elgin, lured by money raised through local subscription. A large three-story and basement brick building was erected along Prospect Street near Slade Avenue. Residential plots were platted around the factory, which was reached by an extension of the horse car line. A big mansion located on the high terrace at the northwest comer of Cherry Street and Prospect
Boulevard, still in existence, was converted into an employee boarding house.

Congdon had been connected with the shoe business since boyhood and had traveled to Europe in search of improved methods. His factory was equipped with the latest laborsaving machinery and at its peak employed nearly 200.

Production in this plant ended in 1886, and the building was later used to turn out chewing gum and then converted to a creamery. It was razed in 1929.

A second major producer, headed by George W. Ludlow and his brother-in-law, George R. Keep, moved from Chicago to Elgin in 1891. A real estate syndicate offered them a new factory near the northeast comer of what became known as Shoe Factory Road and the road to Dundee.

The gift of the plant was contingent upon the George W. Ludlow Co. employing 350 people for five years. Daily output was about 900 pairs. The firm was unable to fill its orders for two busy years, then went under in the Panic of 1893.

In 1897 Selz-Schwab bought the factory, the fifth in its chain of plants. The operation was frequently interrupted by strikes in the early years and it was the hardest hit of any local industrial plant in the Palm Sunday tornado of 1920. The roof of the west wing was lifted off and the second story lay in a heap on the first story's ceiling. Repairs were made but the plant did not reach capacity until the middle 1920s.

At that time it was producing about 2,000 pairs of ladies' shoes daily. One of the brand
names was "Sole of Honor."

In 1929 Selz-Schwab decided to discontinue making women's shoes and concentrate on
men's. The plant in Elgin was closed, leaving about 300 unemployed. The building was occupied by Brody, Inc., then a discount clothing concern and is now condominiums.

The Allied Shoe Co., a merger of two Chicago firms, located in Elgin in 1933 by arrangement with the Association of Commerce. This firm was based in a former shirt factory along North Liberty Street, where a Hispanic supermarket is located. About 100 men and women were employed by Allied. Production ceased in 1952. Add a comment
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