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With BocaJump going into hiatus (until further notice) at the end of the year....uh...in one week, this may be my last BocaJump...ever. gasp! I know what you are thinking - What will you do without reading fragmented sentences, elipses every two sentences, over used hypens and/or parentheticals and thoughts that ramble?! (Please don't answer...that was rhetorical). However, considering all that, at this time I wanted to say, "Thank You" for letting me ramble on about all the events, plays, art exhibits, restaurants, bakeries, orchestras, shops, zombies, bands, movies in the park, parades, yadda yadda yadda but most of all, about the amazing people that Elgin has in its company. They are all little jewels and gifts that are so common to us everyday, that sometimes we miss the magic or take them for granted.

True, speaking of magic, this is a magical time of year for most – but lest we forget - so is January thru November, and sometimes, with all the tragedies and heartache out there, sometimes we just need a little reminder. In all places, the following excerpt from "Miracle on 34th Street" (the 1994 re-make, no doubt, with its big shoulder pads and heavy eye make-up) made me think...

-"I must confess, I don't know why they're making such a fuss about me.
-This is the holiday season, and you're Santa Claus, right? -To many, but to others I'm an old man with a white beard. -But you're still the symbol of the season. -You think I'm a fraud, don't you?
-Fraud is a bit too strong a word.
-But you don't believe in me.
-I believe that Christmas is for children. -Your daughter doesn't believe in me, either. -I don't think that there's any harm in not believing in a figure that many do acknowledge to be a fiction.
-Oh, but there is. I'm not just a whimsical figure who wears a charming suit and affects a jolly demeanor. You know, I..I...I'm a symbol. I'm a symbol of the human ability to be able to suppress the selfish and hateful tendencies that rule the major part of our lives.
If...you can't believe, if you can't accept anything on faith, then you're doomed for a life dominated by doubt.
I like you very much, Mrs...Mrs. Walker, you're a fine woman. And, you know, I think you'll make an excellent test case for me - you and your daughter.
If I could make you believe, then there'd be some hope for me. If I can't... Well, I'm finished." (Miracle on 34th Street / re-make). Dir Les Mayfield. Perfs. Richard Attenborough and Elizabeth Perkins. 1994. Hughes Entertainment. Twentieth Century Fox.)

This is such a crazy time of year, but the other day, I sat down with my kids and watched John Hughes' version of "Miracle on 34th Street". It's a cute movie that I have seen before, but on this particular night, I must have really been paying attention because when I watched this scene, it really hit me.

Every year, I make my kids write letters to Santa Claus...an actual letter...not just a list of what they want. The last few years, they have fought me on it, for they don't "believe" anymore, and they think it's "stupid". Hmpft! I always tell them they are believing in a time of year. They are believing in all the joy and wonder of the season. They are believing in innocence. They are believing in hope and a future full of hope. They are believing in their friend, their neighbor, the stranger on the street. They are believing in the symbol. I know Christmas means many things to many different people, and I'm certainly not aiming at getting all preachy here. But I am going beyond the literal reason for the season, and I am not bringing religious beliefs into this, but am attempting to focus on the human spirit. It certainly has been tested and perhaps broken, over this last week, and even beyond.

But think about it...

You probably have had something happen to you or something that you have witnessed that was so sweet or like an unexpected gift. It does not have to be big. Just one little thing that maybe made you smile for a second and forget your woes. Just today, I drove from Batavia to South Elgin on Randall Road, and hit every green light! I felt like I won the Lottery! I saw a frazzled mom getting a little help from a stranger in a parking lot. I heard a song that took me back...These things won't stop the tragedies around us, but will remind us, 365 days a year...the reason for the season, whatever that season may be. Many of you may have seen this, but it's worth repeating. What's one of your moments? www.buzzfeed.com/mjs538/moments-that-restored-our-faith-in-humanity-this-y

Keep the faith – whatever that may be and while you are at it - stop in one of Elgin's fine eating establishments or shops to keep their faith and to enjoy what your town has to offer you. (Wouldn't be a BocaJump of mine, if I did not give a shout out to Elgin's excellent eating emporiums! So had to slip that in!) Ya know...by the time you read this, snow is supposed to be on its way. If that happens and I was outside telling you this in person, I would ask, "Do you get my drift?" Now THAT had to make you at least smirk!

Happy Christmas, Happy Holiday, Happy December, Happy New Year. Add a comment
Elgin was the first major city in Illinois to expand across a county line. The original city limits in 1854 consisted of four square miles centered at what is now Fountain Square, and they were soon extended to the eastern limits of Kane County.

In 1889 a new municipal cemetery was opened along Bluff City Boulevard in Cook County, but it wasn't until the Elgin Heights industrial and residential subdivision was projected in 1891 that the city boundaries were moved into Cook.

The Hanover Township annexation encompassed the cemetery, much of what is now Lords Park and Elgin Heights. These areas also became part of the school district.

Elgin's location in two counties has created some confusion over the years. The city was situated in different state legislative and congressional districts and judicial circuits. The boundaries of the Gail Borden Public Library were originally confined to Elgin Township. Until the library became a special district and extended into Hanover Township in 1974, it could not serve city residents in Cook County.

Some attorneys questioned the jurisdiction of the old Elgin City court, dissolved in 1964, because of the county overlap. Problems also developed with a variance in real estate assessment practices between Kane and Cook counties.

Prospective brides and grooms often became aware of the dividing line at the last minute. They either secured a Kane County license for a wedding in an Elgin church located in Cook County, or they obtained a Cook County license for a marriage in Kane. Because it overlies both counties, more than one impromptu wedding has taken place in
Lords Park with birds in the trees for witnesses.

Detaching the western townships of Cook County and adding them to Kane was one proposed solution.

The Legislature as early as 1853 enacted a law providing for the annexation of Hanover, Barrington, Palatine and Schaumburg townships to Kane County providing a majority of voters in both counties approved. No elections on the question were held, however, The idea was discussed by the Elgin Association of Commerce as late as 1949 and 1953, but no action was taken.

There were relatively few Cook County residents of Elgin for many years; as recently as 1940 there were only 591. Cook County Elgin was the fastest growing area of the city between 1970 and 1980, its population rising from 5,347 to 11,020, more than one-sixth of the city's population. Most of these residents live in Blackhawk Manor, Parkwood, Lord's Park Manor, Poplar Creek, Huntington Park and Kennington Square housing developments.

Besides Lords Park and the cemetery, the Cook County section of Elgin now includes Elgin High School and Memorial Field, the National and American Little League grounds, the Sherwin-Williams Elgin Sweeper industrial plants, several churches, and all of the car dealerships along Illinois 19.

You can go to the middle of Cookane Avenue and stand astride two counties if you are so inclined. It is one of the many "fascinating" things to do in Elgin. Add a comment


Those of you who have big brothers know that there are two varieties: The kind that love their younger siblings, those who dream of being an only child and those who are bad at math.

I have two older brothers, one of each. My oldest brother is the first kind. He's good at math as well, but that's another story. This story is about how a teen-aged boy extended the Santa Claus season for his little sister out of pure good will.

I don't remember how I made the leap from believer to non-believer, where Santa is concerned. There was no heart-breaking epiphany. There was a great deal of swearing while putting up our yearly tree, I remember that. I remember my mother was prone to odd gifts, such as a bottle of dandruff shampoo for my middle brother and a wildly disappointing statue of St. Francis of Assisi in lieu of a doll. I suppose I could have tried wrangling a dress on the white porcelain figurine, but there are very few dollie clothes made for emaciated saints. (Google it if you doubt me.)

We were not a family prone to traditions, but there were a few we held dear like waiting outside the bathroom door as my mother took a leisurely shower on Christmas morning. We were not allowed to travel downstairs to see what Santa had brought until my mother was cleaner than the nail beds of a surgeon with OCD. I understand now that it was a ploy to heighten the excitement, but at the time I had to wonder what my mother did on Christmas Eve that necessitated such a thorough scrubbing.

There was the tradition, which felt more like a rule which made it a criminal offense to open presents while another member of the family was doing so. Imagine my shock the first time I shared Christmas with my Italian in-laws as they laid waste to a display of presents big enough to make Santa go into another line of work.

In the time it took to say, "Merry Chr-" the presents were opened and categorized and the paper tossed into waiting garbage bags. That year, because I was a newcomer I had little to open so I was handed one of my fiance's gifts which turned out to be underpants which sported the phrase, "Home of the Whopper." Coming from a family which pretended that no one owned genitals, this was also a stunner. (At this time, I'd like to congratulate myself for most likely being the only writer to use the word genitals in a Christmas themed work unless you count the pay-per-view movie, "Santa's Ho-Ho-Hos.)

Anyway, back to my brother, who had a paper route as many brother's did in the sixties. (Whatever happened to paper boys? What do they do for money now? Are they somehow making money with the dozens of single socks missing from dryers across America or is it something more maniacal?)

Early one Christmas morning, I was deeply asleep when my brother came and sat on the edge of my bed and whispered my name. He had a secret to tell and as everyone knows, if you're big brother shares a secret, you have hit the jackpot of self-esteem.

I could tell he was excited; his eyes were wide and his mouth was slightly agape with just a small smile at the corners. This had to be big. Being of the teenage persuasion, my brother was not easily impressed, even with the idea that an enormous bunny snuck into our house on Easter Eve, took our colored, hard-boiled eggs, along with pounds of chocolate, and scattered them about for us to find and eat on Easter without any of us ending up in the ER with salmonella poisoning.

He leaned in a bit, so as not to be heard by the other members of my family, who were not as special as I was at that moment. My stomach began to curl around like the kind of ribbon you zip scissors over to make it twist into a pretty coil, but you can never do it effectively so you end up with a limp and frayed piece of holiday cheer that you cast aside with a snarl and the kind of words associated with installation of Christmas trees.

It was just becoming light outside, I might have seen some lollygagging stars had I looked out the window. But my eyes were pinned on my big brother's face who was about to give me some kind of spectacular news.

"I was coming back from my paper route," he began. I knew that because he smelled like winter air when the season cracked with cold and snow began accumulating in mid November and didn't completely vanish until Mother's Day, but I said nothing, most likely because I was holding my breath.

"I was riding back home and when I got here," he continued. "I saw something in the sky, over our house."

I skittered up to a sitting position, pulling in my knees and wrapping my arms around them; this was going to be big. Maybe even better than the time he took me to Ben Franklin and, with his paper route money, let me pick out a Barbie outfit.

I know what you're thinking now, especially if you've ever been a little girl. OMG, you're thinking, your brother was actually born on Christmas morning 2000 years ago. No, he was just a regular brother in that he wasn't the Savior, but he also gave me the last pop tart once when I had greedily eaten my share the morning before, so he was pretty close.

On this particular morning, however, he was going to return something to me that I was about to willingly toss away, not understanding its value; the certainty that Santa Claus was a flesh and blood person and the twinkling delight that goes along with that knowledge. He polished the tarnish of my impending disbelief and handed it back shiny and true.

"I saw Santa," he told me in a way that could have one him an Oscar had he done it on film and not under the canopy of his little sister's bed. "He was just flying away when I got home."

This had to be true. My brother didn't lie, not to me anyway. My parents were another story, as I said he was a teenager in the sixties.

What a revelation! I had begun to think that the story of a guy who lived up in the North Pole with a couple dozen elves who made all the toys, even misguided statues of St. Francis, and then flew across the rooftops of every single child who believed in him in a single night, despite the time zone changes was a little fishy. But, it had to be true and I was as sure as a three-year-old that the benevolent Santa had been to my house that Christmas Eve and would return thereafter.

Of course, Santa eventually had to cross me off his list, (apparently Santa stops visiting once a person gets married,) but I never stopped believing. When I see him at the mall, I still get that curly stomach feeling I got when I was a little girl and Santa came to my house. He often winks at me and waves, because he can see I still believe, Santa knows these things and so do big brothers.

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Hi RND:
I am wondering, when dating a new person, when is the best time to take down the pictures from the last boyfriend/girl friend? And what about Facebook pictures? I ask, because I have been dating a man seriously for about 3 months. At the beginning, we just casually saw each other, but have recently committed to each other on a more serious level. He has taken down all the pictures in his house of him and his old girlfriend, but he still has pictures of her on his Facebook page. Do you think he should delete all his Facebook pictures of her? I want to ask him to, but I don't want to come across as insecure.

R: So what would be the purpose behind having him delete the pictures on Facebook? Make sure you understand why you want him to do it before you consider asking. Will it make you feel more secure about your relationship, or are you worried about what other people think? Do you feel it's about respecting you or does it have some deeper meaning, something in your past? What exactly does it mean for you? Just be careful, because once we begin to ask others to change something for us, then they begin to expect the same in return. It's a slippery slope and one day you wake up resentful because you are no longer doing what you want, but what another expects. Relationships are about bringing joy and love into your life, not about making you feel comfortable or secure emotionally. You need to grow as a person and learn to feel secure in your own skin, regardless who you are dating. Certainly if someone isn't respecting you or there's something more behind the pictures it's one thing, but if there's no hurtful intention then ask yourself why. These days, having pictures on Facebook is little different than having old pictures in albums of ex-girlfriends. Would you ask him to tear them up? If not, then ask yourself why be so bothered by them because maybe there's a different issue they really represent. Only you can know that and talk about that directly.

D: I don't think it is a big deal for you to worry about, and I would leave it alone. If he has a lot of pictures on his Facebook page, he probably doesn't even remember that they are there. If that's the only pictures he has on his Facebook page, or his profile or cover picture are of him and her well then, I wouldn't worry about the pictures, I would worry about your relationship! But that is most likely not the case. Facebook pictures are kind of like a photo album. I don't think it is necessary to remove all photo album pics with the old gf or bf in them. Sometimes they are funny to look back at, too. Don't worry about it and I would not make a big deal about it. If he is good to you, and he does not seem to have any interest in the prior women in his life, leave it alone and then begin to make new picture memories that highlight your relationship together. Add a comment


You know Dasher and Dancer and Prancer and Vixen... In the Neighborhood Fresh, On the Side Restaurant and M Squared Bakery at the National Street Metra Station, but do you recall the other new fabulous restaurants – seven in all? Well, I say, what a perfect time of year for all these new eateries to make their grand entrance! And such a selection!

This past week, the Downtown Neighborhood Association will have had five Progressive Ribbon Cuttings and two scheduled for Monday and Friday of next week to welcome these new eating establishments: In the Neighborhood – Fresh, On the Side, Danny's on Douglas, La Erencia de mis Padres, Mr. Tequila's, M Squared Bakery, Chooch's Pizza. Just in time for the holiday season. (More information on the Ribbon Cutting/Grub Crawls available at downtownelgin.com)

Need some ideas for gifts for this giving season? How about the gift of food? I'm not mincing words here and you shouldn't need to mull this over! For example, M Squared Bakery (msquaredbakery.com), has its quaint cafe located just inside the National Street Metra Station, and offers coffee, tea, fresh pastries and sweet treats. Just think how much of a Christmas star you would be if you brought a nice box of fresh-baked holiday goodness to your Mother-in-law! They are famous for their cakes and cupcakes, but lest not forget that M Squared also loves to create truffles, macaroons, marshmallows, and many other treats that even the Sugar Plum Fairy would love!

Also serving breakfast, as well as lunch is On the Side Restaurant at 74 S. Grove Avenue (onthesiderestaurant.com). The selections vary from a more hardier fare to the more health conscious selections – both equal in taste! You may choose their Black Bean and Quinoa Salad or perhaps the Honey Soy Glazed Chicken Breast or even their Beef Brisket sandwich, but whatever you do, don't go without On the Side's "Of the Day"! They will be offering a Muffin of the Day, Cookie of the Day or even a Biscotti or Scone of the Day! I'm thinking you will really need to stop there every day!

Want to switch it up a bit? Another fine choice for lunch is In the Neighborhood Fresh (which I like to call ITN Deli East), which offers the freshest deli sandwiches and soups in town. Fresh is located in the Gail Borden Public Library at 270 N. Grove, Elgin. You won't need a library card to check out these delicious sandwiches, but you will need an appetite! How Fresh works is that you "Pick Your Style" – sandwich, soup, wrap or salad, then "Pick Your Ingredients" – a wide selection of breads, meats, vegetables, dressings, and cheeses. And there are even some favorite choices for the "little ones". Go to the stacks and pick your books, then stop at Fresh at stack your picks...all without breaking the bank for a nice lunch out or to go! (call 847-888-9486 for more info)

For lunch or dinner, you have your choice of many fine restaurants in Elgin, but now you have even more eateries to choose from. First, there is Danny's on Douglas, 213 Douglas Ave., Elgin. Danny's Pizza has been a staple in town for years, and their longevity must have something to do with their claim of, "best pizza in Elgin". But now, Danny's has a big welcoming space at the corner of Douglas and Kimball, where they not only serve their cheesy pies, but also burgers, sandwiches and Italian selections. A true family friendly pizza joint with good food and super service!

I have also learned that La Erencia de mis Padres opened at 165 E. Highland Avenue. Add to that, I learned from my official translator, Daisy, that La Erencia de mis Padres means "My Parents Wealth", and this must pertain to the recipes! This Mexican-styled eatery offers authentic dishes using ingredients found in the most traditional of Mexican dishes. If you have a craving for Mexican flavors and can't travel to Mexico, this is a place to go! It's delicioso! For more información on La Erencia de mis Padres stop by or call 847-214-8877.

Another Mexican restaurant which boasts the flavors of Mexico, is Mr. Tequila's at 51 S. Grove. Mr. Tequila's features the established tastes we love of 100% authentic Mexican food as well as bar service. They will be open 7 days a week for breakfast, lunch and dinner, and from time to time you may even catch some talented Mariachi's playing so lyrically! Mr. Tequila's official Ribbon Cutting is Friday, December 21st at 5pm. I recommend stopping by!

The list of new restaurants goes on and on...This is like the 12 days of Christmas or the 8 days of Hanukkah - Chooch's Pizza, 64 S. Grove Avenue, Elgin, will have their official ribbon cutting on Wednesday, December 19th –it's been a long time coming and what a celebration it will be! This pizzeria welcomes walk-ins and does take-out, delivery, dine-in, catering...they do it all! I think it's worth the wait, but check it out for yourself!

Elgin already had a plethora of fine eating establishments to choose from – and now – how lucky are we that seven more have been added to the mix! You wanted choices...You have choices! I love my old faithful's, but I will be sure to frequent the new eateries – but only on days that end in d-a-y! I hope you do too! Oh, and don't forget...restaurant gift certificates make great presents any time of year! Add a comment
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